It is our own experience that determines everything about you.
People can get themselves into a certain mentality that will not allow themselves to experience anything else. Like looking at your life through the keyhole of a door.
If we're not open to receive experiences, be them bad or good, that come into our lives, how are we to expand our own thinking, capabilities or grow spiritually?
When we give to things totally things tend to work out for us. So be giving. I'm not talking about giving material things to others, I'm talking about giving of ourselves totally in whatever moment or whatever thing we are doing. In doing this we allow ourselves the enjoyment of the experience completely because we know we've allowed it to take place for us.