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"I look inside myself to find my peace"
For those of us who have had to deal with being let-down by our expectations, this article is for you. I'm positive that we have all been let-down at onetime or another because we didn't get what we expected. As we have come to stop abusing ourselves with drugs and alcohol, we sometimes expect our lives to become this magical, wonderful place to be, right away. It's like trying to win the Indy500 with a racecar that has fouled sparkplugs. We have to remember, for all the time we spent using, we also closed off alot of the things that could have made our lives better. Sometimes we probably didn't even realize just how messed up our lives became while abusing ourselves.
Although some of us were functioning addicts...we believed we were doing just fine when we had our drugs or had our drinks. Until the next time we ran out of our drugs, or didn't have our drinks. We had gotten so clouded by our addiction that we lost the true perception of the world around us. We don't really realize that until we're clean and sober just how clouded we truly were. We have to remember that it took us time to get that way and it's going to take some time to get back on the right path and begin to see our lives in a more positive light. But it does happen.
The best way to get through this, without relapsing, is talking about it to others and learning that it's not just you that has had this problem. You can also read up on how to motivate yourself. I believe that if we surround ourselves with positive outllooks and attitudes that we will attract the positive things in the universe. Plus we must also learn that negative things do happen at times, and we must learn to cope and deal with the negative things using a positive resolve. It's like having the attitude that we are not going to let any negative things turn us back into those addicts we once were.
So don't be affraid to make goals and stick to them in order to improve your life. Sure you may have some set-backs, but that doesn't mean you have to regress back to your addictive ways. Realize it's going to take some time for you to re-establish relationships, of any kind, that you may have damaged during your addictive times. Know that this can be accomplished by the actions we take now once you've made the decision to break away from your addictions. Like I tell my daughters even to this day, "Believe in yourself, do your best, and you'll be alright." I find that to be so very true. Until next time, enjoy the day.